Some insights from our whatsapp group:
Ngwenya Denis: Great… it’s always good to hear how people in other areas overcome challenges
Busi N: But do you think it is a solution? Isolating women from men?
Ngwenya Denis: It could be a temporary solution but never a permanent one. Women need men and vice versa. Women can only be separated from men for a specific time like for example if they are recovering from trauma.
Busi N: It looks like these women are making things happen for themselves.
Gideon Sarkodie Osei Adars Fm: Very interesting case study for our discussion. Am very busy now, let me finish quickly and look into this story.
Alex Malambo: Good, but I feel it is not a lasting solution to the problem of gender equality. One does not need to become a rebellion to over come the problem. No matter what situation we are going through, we still need to sit down and talk. We still need each other at some point.
Gideon Sarkodie Osei Adars Fm: I don’t think it is a rebellion…but I agree with you that we genders equality in a peaceful coexisting society. They quest should not lead to segregation which in itself is another problem
Ngwenya Denis: Hmmmm fascinating story indeed. I’m realising something. The cause for violence in this video is mainly cultural practices. Things like FGM and child marriages are two ways examples though rape is not cultural. It is important to confront these cultural practices that no longer have a place in the modern world. I understand FGM was usually done to make sure the woman does not cheat in the absence of her husband but what about the men? No such practice to make sure he doesn’t cheat when his wife/girlfriend is away. I honestly think communities need to be educated in order to realise that women are not objects for punching.
Emmanuel Alonkunaab Radio Builsa: The day I watch this documentary I wept.
Abdul Froko: This is wonderful. I see a lot courage in the women but that cannot solve the problem.
Joshua Baba Madaki Nenzit FM: Women are learning quite fast to liberate themselves from the stereotypical formation of them not having rights to live and fully express themselves in business, leadership, politics, agriculture etc. It’s gradually gaining ground in some African cultures.
Abdul Froko: Gender equality is one of the human rights issues people all over the world are grappling with. It has challenges as a result of the fact that societies are not same in terms of their practices, behaviour and conduct. But the most important in the challenges of gender equality has to do with culture and religion.
For instance, various cultural practices of Africans, for that matter Ghana has not given women and girls their rightful places in society. women and girls are not allowed to make their voices heard in public places or decision making gatherings, but only listen to their male counterparts. They are talked to but not allowed to talk back. The only reason assign to this is that “our culture does not allow it”. This situation has led to men taking opportunities much more than women. when it comes to sharing, men and boys take the chunk.
Religion as it were, do not allow injustice what so ever but the practitioners of some religions misconstrue them and filtered through them some beliefs that denigrate women and girls in our societies.
Sungumo: You don’t run away from the people you need to stay and solve it once and for all, but I like her courage.
Mariama Sierra Leone: Thank you Busi for sharing. I admire their courage. That is very good but in future I’m sure men will live in that village. Looking at the video I saw boys who are definitely their children. It would be difficult to chase them away. What I personally learnt from this video is women can do whatever they want if they have the opportunity. Society needs to give women the opportunity they need to grow.
If you read the story, it seems men have their own village close by and they call it Samuel. Only one man is allowed in Umoja to help with the animals. Women give birth without even being married and rumour has it that they sneak in their boyfriends at night and they leave very early in the morning.
Mariama Sierra Leone: Interesting. They still need men though. Men and women should co habit. The isolation doesn’t make any sense
Alex Malambo: To cut the long story short, they are now directly abusing themselves and children who are growing up without fathers. Remember, I ealier said it all. No man is an island, we all need each other in one way or another. Their children will some day are going to grow up and later start abusing their mothers or sisters because they have feelings or the other way round. I foresee problems to come in that village. We should coexist as human beings.
Does it make any sense; telling someone to get out of your sight and never be near you but at the same time you are saying “don’t go forever” I will need you when I want help from you
Ngwenya Denis: Well said colleague. The story of these women will always provoke mixed reactions. But the reality is that these women need men for procreation and general sexual needs. It boggles the mind how they continue to have children but the way their partners visit is a mystery. Probably the men sneak under the cover of darkness and enter the village and then they depart early morning. Hypocrisy of sorts. They shouldn’t be entertaining any lovers. If they have made a decision to completely cut off men, then they should live their lives like nuns. My humble opinion
Busi N: Do we understand the women left to be on their own to avoid abuse of any form.? Yes being separated from men doesnt address the situations as it shows we need each other.
Ngwenya Denis: Yes… in other words perhaps we could say “they only need men to fulfil certain duties that cannot be done by them”… rather than saying no men are allowed coz it’s clear that at a certain point, the services of men are needed in this women only village
But I admire them for standing on their two feet… never relying on men to provide for them
Alex Malambo: I agree with you. That is my line of thought too. Imagine producing fatherless children!! What kind of stories are they going to tell their children when they grow up? That their fathers used to sneak in at night in the dark.
Busi N: so this case study was one way women decided to deal with the issue of gender inequality and this discussion or analysis is teaching us something. It is a known fact that gender equality isnt just about women having challenges, it is about men too. Women cannot live without men, men too need women, there should be a way of addressing the challenges and inequality to live in harmony with each other. How would you advise these women, yes life is better for them economically and other ways in their own space but when they go outside they still experience the same challenges they were running away from
Emmanuel Asamoah Radio 1: I don’t discriminate on gender line but I am a believer of " some jobs are for men and others for women". The are works I won’t risk a lady for it .
I have just signed a maternity leave for a lady in my office and we will pay her during her stay at home.
What I don’t accept is the fact that rules be bent for someone because she is a lady .
I am also a believer of been equal and don’t give a job to someone because she is a lady.
If we are not careful on this, we will come back in future to build capacity of men because women have now taken over and the men are no where to be found.
As the saying goes, if you educate a man, you educate an individual but if you educate a woman, you educate a nation.
I also say, if money get to a woman, is for her but when money get to a man is for many.
We should think about this!
Joshua Baba Madaki Nenzit FM: Absolutely,
Different cultures have shaped and still are shaping the depth of gender equality.
I do hope that women will take proactive measures like the example to forge a common front.
I have met and interviewed a female carpenter who shared her inspiring story of how she went into carpentry as a profession. Breaking away from the stereotype of men dominated profession Hannah is doing better than many male carpenters.
Some women are very industrious, hard working as well as men, but it will interest you to know that some are just waiting for the opportunity to come before they utilise it.
Being proactive is key to making a difference in one’s life.
Joseph Mchome: The Umoja village story is very interesting. I am real moved on how the leader Rebecca Lolosoli getting abused, and start thinking on how to solve the problem. Problems are created by people and can be solved by courageous people like Rebecca. Yes problem is not but creating an opportunity to be solved. To me I don’t see women only at that Umoja village, but I see children both boys and girls, who will eventually form a transformed society. They need gender specialist who will assist them to make some few adjustment and lead them to fulfill their dreams. Very encouraging story I like the way they tried to solve and platform for gradually changing their community. This is a strategic move will no have an overnight result, but with good condition they will transform their community. Joseph Safe Mchome, The Director Ileje Community Radio.
Emmanuel Fasalejo: I am Oluwole Emmanuel Fasalejo of Ejule-Nen 93.7fm Igbodigo Okitipupa Ondo State Nigeria. The case under discussion is an extreme case. It is not going to address gender inequality, rather it will creat an abnormal situation.
One how will the male children in the community be handled? Will they be killed or sold off when they grow to become men? Will they be changed to men? How will the community address the partanity of the children in the community? Will Rebecca the leader be the father of all the children?
When new children need be made how will they get the opposite sex to do their own part of the exercise?
If care is not taken the few boys amongst them will be sexually abused by some of the ladies who sometimes need them. With time there will be quqrells or fight over the few boys within the community. Nature can not be cheated.
Apart from these facts stayed women after some times will not be ready to be submissive to the order of their fellow women. They will want to now out
Jamila Maiiyali Freedom Radio: Good morning all
Well to me the people umoja. Decision is quite good but it’s Temporary cos men and women are meant to live together we all need each other
But the issue is that in some society religion has made men superior than woman but never the less not to the extent of maltreating the woman
In my society most men always show their superiority in a very wrong way and tries to justify their right religiously
Example a man will marry more than one wife and don’t have the capability to cater for the children nor the wife and the worst of all is not allow her to trade or work just because he is the man and religion has given him the power to do so where a he has forgotten that there were instances that a woman can go out to work in other to take care of her family
Most women are faced with so many challenges in marriage just because they have a very low knowledge of the religion they are practicing and so do not know who to fight for their right
Secondly in my society single mothers are not given much respect they are mostly seen as wayward women just because ahe decide not to marry after a breakup
Esther Mwangabula Tanzania: You are right I’m sorry to say that,religious is giving too much room to women oppression. Whereby a women is meant to respect only and not to reason,which makes many women’s suffer in their hearts with no where to breath. Jamila have raised a very critical issue here,Man can marry more than one wife BUT women can never ever ,even she love another man. When is caught will be in trouble.
It is religious teachings which puts down women .
I’m Esther mwangabula from Tanzania
Jamila Maiiyali Freedom Radio: Danny it is the Mis interpretation of religion by some men for their selfish interests
Religion has spelt everything out accordingly if a woman is not interested in a man she can just quit rather than staying so also the man that right is there
But the issue is that so many teachings has been hiding from women
That why it’s goo to get educated about the religion one is practicing in other not to be missed used